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Finding a Romantic Gift for Her
by: Marguerite Bonneville
Let's face it. In many ways women are easy to buy for. Most of us love the
traditional romantic gifts including:
- Chocolates
- Flowers
- Jewelry
- Lingerie
- Perfume
- Candles
- Soft Toys
- Clothes
But on the other hand we're difficult to buy for. We know what we like, and
we don't want to settle for less. We pay attention to little things, so we
appreciate it when you give us a gift in our favorite color, or one that has
special meaning.
We love romantic gestures, like poetry, love letters and romantic music. Men
often consider us gullible when they see us being 'taken in' by another man's
soft words and candlelight dinners. The truth is, we often know when we're being
played, but we can't help responding to the gesture. We'd like it to be sincere
so we convince ourselves that it is. And occasionally, the manipulative male
becomes a victim of his own techniques and falls for the woman he set out to
victimize.
But falling for romantic gestures isn't a sign of weakness. A woman can
muster huge wells of strength and resourcefulness when the situation calls for
it. Some women get addicted to this power and let go of the so-called feminine
side of their natures. Others realize that you can have both.
So what it's really about is knowing the woman that you're buying for. You
know you're in trouble when you make generalizations like, "Women love flowers"
or "I'm sure she'd like a box of chocolates for her birthday". She may prefer
some clay for her sculptures or some new gardening tools. Romance is more about
the care that went into choosing the gift rather than the gift itself.
Here's a story that illustrates this point:
Barbara and her husband John often talked about their pasts, including their
experiences as young children. In the course of one particular conversation,
Barbara described a beautiful old-fashioned pencil case her mother gave her when
she first started school. She hadn't thought about the case in years, but at the
time it was one of her most treasured possessions.
Six months later, John was browsing in a specialty store when he came across
a pencil case that matched Barbara's description. He immediately bought it and
presented it to her that night.
Barbara was delighted with his gift and amazed that John had recalled their
conversation. To her the gift was magical. It felt as if John had restored a
little piece of her childhood.
People give you clues about what they want continuously in their daily
conversation. It's up to you to pay attention and surprise them later with a
well-chosen gift. This type of thoughtfulness works wonders in a relationship.
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© Marguerite Bonneville
Marguerite Bonneville is a Master Practitioner of Neuro-Linguistic
Programming (NLP) whose passion is publishing information online. She is a
contributing writer for
http://www.romantic-gift-ideas-online.com, a resource site dedicated to
helping visitors find the perfect romantic gift. |
